Marriage Matters

831ffe1ea9448515cbb0b12a9fc6a4.jpgAssalaamu-Alaykum (Peace be Upon you)
Music, half naked women, overhead projectors, speakers, and lots of food – no I’m not at a party, neither am I at a club, believe it or not I’m actually at a ‘Muslim’ wedding.

Now I would not be surprised if a lot of people who read the last sentence would ask the question, “And what’s wrong with that?”

Indeed, we are thought to be following the status quo if we have a nice big wedding with all the trimmings, and unfortunately the people who want to keep theirs nice and small and simple are frowned upon by their own relatives, their friends, colleagues – by their fellow Muslims.

The problem is this – we have confined the religion of Islam to the Masjids (Mosques), and we are under the false notion that outside the Masjids, we are free to live our lives the way we please. Well, if we do this, the humble author asks the question, then what is the difference between us and the fire worshippers of old, who, when they were in the temple worshipped the flames of fire, but outside they lived as they wanted?


Islam is not just a religion, it is a complete code of conduct – a way of life. To confine it to the Masjids is an indication as to how estranged the Muslims of today are to Islam, indeed it is utter folly.

And just think of all the unnecessary expense (not to mention stress) we incur in arranging these high priced facades; expensive, hired super cars (’oh no there’s a scratch, bye bye deposit!’), over-elaborate stages or indeed, as is fast becoming the craze, loans which are taken out to cover the cost of something, which instead of being something of happiness, turns into a logistical nightmare!

In Islam, the more simple the wedding, the more Barakah (abundance, blessings) Allah will put into the marriage.

Everybody is familiar with the saying, ‘Start as you mean to go on’, and this applies to the marriage of a Muslim as well. If we marry according to the principles laid down by the great Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) and base our marriage according to the principles of Taqwa (Fear of Allah), simplicity and remembrance of Allah, then there will be blessings in not only the marriage, but married life afterwards as well, and there will be love, not just between man and wife, but between the two families as well.

But if we conduct our marriage contrary to these Islamic principles, then it is true, the wedding will certainly go off with a bang, but this will be followed by subsequent bangs after marriage, marital bliss will be a seeming impossibility and if any dispute arises between man and wife, then the two families will become two opposing camps of war, each side contending that they are right and the other is wrong.

Please do not misunderstand me – I am not an authority on this, however, I will go out on a limb and say that most people will agree with what has been said in the preceding paragraphs. As a Muslim, my duty is not to criticise, but to stay alert, suggest improvement when it is necessary, and above all, make Dua (Supplication) to Allah Almighty that He helps the Muslims and the Non-Muslims alike.

As the saying goes, ‘Reminder is beneficial for the Believer’, and that is all this is – a reminder, for me and for you. May Allah give us the Taufiq (Divine Aid) to act appropriately. Ameen.


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3 Responses to “Marriage Matters”

  1. this is an excellent blog, very down to earth and to the point just like our beautiful religion Islam. keep the good work up!

  2. I am surprised to the number ofresponses you have received to this very true article, but am i really surprised, no I don’t think so. I believe people do not want to comments on such things that has so much value in our families. I believe if we do not stand up to these non- islamic customs that are practiced at the time of marriages then unfortunately at the time of our children we will be still celebrating them. May Allah give us the Taufiq (Divine Aid) to act appropriately. Ameen.


  3. ufff Nauzibillah! What has been written in this post is so true!!
    May Allah protect us and have mercy upon us!

    A recent convo btwn 2 people in the same family:
    Person A: I want the simplest wedding ever…

    Person B: (In sheer shock!) “You mean you won’t wear a wedding dress?”
    Person A: “no… we as muslims oppose the non – muslims…etc.”
    Person B: (totally baffled) “so you won’t be wearing a wedding dress? But that’s every girls dream!!….”

    People these days make their dreams from what they see on TV and read in Magazines.. not from beautiful personalities like Hazrat Fatima RA..etc…! Which is a huge big shame!

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