Forgive & Forget

840890_-wounded_heart.jpgAssalaamu-Alaykum (Peace be Upon you)

To forgive somebody is not an easy thing to do – especially when what they have done has been really hurtful.

Or when you have trusted somebody and they have breached that trust, it’s not easy to put the same stock in that person again.

Indeed, to forgive and forget as the title goes, is not as easy as it sounds, but that does not mean that we should not try…

Correct me if I’m wrong, but it seems that we now live in a world where it is seen to be ‘cool’ to hold grudges against people, to bad-mouth them, to backbite. What is more worrying is that the people who forgive, the people who show mercy, are seen as the ‘weak’ ones and are labelled as the ones who are not so sharp.

Ok, I’m not saying that we should not make people realise their mistakes when it would be justice to do so, but what I am proposing is something better – something which has been taught by the Prophet of Islam – Muhammad (PBUH).

Wouldn’t it be better if we started overlooking the faults of others and gave them more of a chance?

Just imagine, if this simple (yet extremely difficult!) action were to be carried out by everyone on this planet, wouldn’t living in this world be a much more blissful experience?

And if everyone did do that – right down from the man on the street to the diplomat in his office, then that wouldn’t that lead to peace between people, peace between communities and peace between countries?

Because we must never forget who we are. That at the end of the day, Allah has built us all from the same flesh and blood and we are all human beings. And as human beings, we must do everything we can to act like human beings towards each other. By learning, by loving, by trying not to hate and by forgiving and by forgetting.

Ma’as-salaam

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3 Responses to “Forgive & Forget”

  1. Yeh I do agree with you.
    Why is that these days everyone always have disputes in the family? Especially when it comes to family weddings? Individual family members then threaten not to come to the wedding, which then builds up tension for the ones who are holding the wedding.

    At the end they come to apologise after making a big scene. It is certainly not easy to forgive and forget that person. That’s why people keep grudges, even though they say “oh it ok, it all 4gotten” but deep down its not.

  2. It certainly is easy to forgive one as stated when you come to your senses after its all regretts however very difficult to forget as one cant change whats happened, just life your past. may allah give us all the strength.

  3. jazakAllah khair

    Ive also hurt some people too in a matter of difference of opinion, alhamdulillah weve forgiven each other.

    Heres a nice read!

    http://www.welcome-back.org/topic/trials.shtml

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