I agree with “A” above. When a person goes through the “arranged” marriage process, you must remember you have only expressed an “interest” in getting married to the person. Any form of contact with the other person after the original meeting is completely haram (do not convince yourselves otherwise). When Allah has granted us such happiness by granting us the ability to get married to a like-minded person, why then do we go out of our way to incur Allah’s displeasure by communicating before marriage.

SubhanAllah, the youth of today have to realise: “There is no obedience in the creation where there is disobedience to Allah”. Do not destroy your marriage before you have even got married. Do not start your marriage having gravely earned Allah’s displeasure for the few months before marriage.

Oh Muslims, your loyalty is to Allah. Follow His commands in their totality.

If we say we love Allah, we must follow His commands. How can we expect Allah to grant us happiness when we have caused His displeasure? Really, Muslims, we desperately need to wake up.

May Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala grant us all the ability to accept His commands. Ameen.

I know this is a couple of months late, but i’ve only been introduced to this site recently.

Anyways replying to “Yaz” –
Someone’s mentioned already that the whole definition of “arranged marriage the islamic way” has been taken well out of context. I agree with that completely.

Personally I don’t understand it.

I myself have had a fairly strict Islamic upbringing. Which doesn’t mean my parents have kept me locked in my house away from the world, no! Infact i’ve just finished Uni. But all the Shariah rules have been drilled in to my head from day 0… Alhamdulillah.

So I thought when it comes to marriage my parents will do everything the Islamic way. I couldn’t have been so wrong. (not that i’m married or anything)

My brother got married recently and uhum although it was an “arranged” marriage it certainly wasn’t within the Shariah rules.
However it was certainly within the “Cultural” rules. Parents these day’s are under the illusion that it’s okay to find the right match for their children and after that let them do what they want… even though the Nikkah ceremony has not been performed..

People say it’s important to “get to know” you’re spouse really well before you get married. I say, ask a standard person who has been in a (haraam) relationship for a long time, exactly which bit of there time together was the best part?! Most will answer “the first few months” and that’ll be because the couple are getting to know each other. Wouldn’t you rather have this after marriage? Like my mum say’s, “every marriage is a love marriage.” and “you learn to love. you don’t love a person straight away”

Sorry for extra long post. Hope it makes sense (inshaAllah)

May Allah SWT help and guide us all in attaining the best of spouses in the most halaal way possible. And keep us steadfast upon his deen always and forever! Aameen!!

However I would like to ask for anyone’s opinions on what they think of arranged marriages compared to love marriages. What are your comments on this from both a religious and cultural point of view?

…and in Allah we trust

Just remember the Hadith

Trust in Allah, but tie up your camel

I hope the the point is fairly self explanatory.

And Allah knows best.