Does Islam celebrate Father’s Day?

Assalaamu-Alaykum – Peace be Upon you

‘Father’s Day is a celebration inaugurated in the early twentieth century to complement Mother’s Day in celebrating fatherhood and male parenting, and to honour and commemorate fathers and forefathers. Father’s Day is celebrated on a variety of dates worldwide and typically involves gift-giving to fathers and family-oriented activities…’ (’s_Day ).

In Islam we are taught the importance of our parents, many of us have heard many sayings about how important our parents are, but do we carry out our duty towards them?

Today when having a conversation with our parents, we end up ridiculing them and say things like,  you’re too old to understand, we raise our voices over them, even shout at them, but what does Islam teach us?

Moulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (a great scholar of our time ) has noted the following:

1. You should not cause them any harm even if they commit any excesses.

2. Respect and honour them in your speech and dealings with them.

3. Obey them in permissible acts.

4. If they are in need of money, assist them even if they are non-Muslims.

5. The following rights are due to parents after their death:

(a) Continue making Duas (supplication) of forgiveness and mercy for them. Continue sending rewards to them in the form of optional acts of worship and charity on their behalf.

(b) Meet their friends and relatives in a friendly way and also assist them wherever possible.

(c) If you have the finances, fulfil their unpaid debts and the permissible bequests that they have made.

(d) When they pass away, abstain from crying and wailing aloud or else their souls will be troubled.

6. According to the Shariah , the rights of the paternal and maternal grandparents are similar to those of the parents and they should be regarded as such.

7. Similarly, the rights of the maternal and paternal uncles and aunts are similar to those of the parents. This has been deduced from certain Ahadith. (Rasulullah s allallahu alayhi wa sallam said: “The maternal aunt has the status of one’s mother.” – Tirmidhi)

This is the same father who has worked numerous hours to provide us with decent shelter and clothes, the same father who never complained of working long hours to make the money to send us through education so we can lead a more easier life than they have. The father who will have sacrificed number of aspirations because he thought of his children and their livelihood and future first.

Have we ever sat down and thought what have I done for my father lately? Ok if he asks for help we help him, but truly have we ever gone out of our way to see how they really are? Offered to massage their feet or head out of love? Asked if there was anything to be done rather than being told? Have we bought them anything? (Not just fathers day!!)

Life is short, and we all know that in the back of our minds, but today we have put so many things ahead of us that we forget to spend some quality time with our parents. Sit with them, enjoy their company, because after they are gone the only things we will have are memories of them.

Don’t we want to remember them and tell stories of them to our children?

I know no-one is perfect, we all may not have the same relationship with our parents that others have, but is it not time we made up our differences? Is it not time we made that effort with out parents the same way we do with our friends?

The following is a supplication which we can pray for parents:

Rabbighfir lii wali-waalidayya walilmum-iniina yauma yaquumul hisaab, Rabbirhamhumaa kamaa rabbayaani sag-hiiraa

”O Lord, forgive me, my parents and Muslims in the Hereafter. O Lord, show mercy on them as they have nourished me when I was young.”

May Allah grant us the Divine success that we may be regarded amongst those who have been good towards their parents, and the ability to fulfil their rights. Ameen.

And remember, in Islam, every day is Mother’s and Father’s Day!

Ma-as-salaam – With Peace

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One Response to “Does Islam celebrate Father’s Day?”

  1. Very interesting read, and as a none Muslim i still find it very relevant and true.

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