Comments on: Some careful words…

By: AnonSister

AnonSister — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 20:41:10 +0000

A very good peice of advice I was once given as a student:

Sowch, phir tawl, phir bol (urdu) which simply means, “Think (of what you’re about to say), then weigh (the consequences of what you’re about to say), then (if you think it will benefit as opposed to do damage) speak” … once we all inshaAllah make this a habit before we speak every time, the good changes it makes will be apparent before us.

Not long before a teacher gave me this advice, I saw a mobile phone network advertising on a billboard, saying something along the lines of, “Don’t think before you speak, speak before you think!” … Shame.

By: Elyas

Elyas — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 16:10:02 +0000

Oh ye father of Maryam – may allah almighty be pleased with you both and a sinner like me too –

The hadith you have helpfully cited “The one who stayed silent saved himself” – embodies a powerful message as the prophet of allah exclaimed.

Of course the hadith doesnt mean we go around dumbstruck nor does it mean that silence is always in every circumstance the prefered response or always a means of salvation – For example the Prophet of Allah also said did he not “he who sees an evil action let him change it WITH HIS TONGUE, then with his hand and then with his heart and that is the weakest form of faith…”

So it is on those occasions that a verbal response is called for or we give one anyway – that we must moderate our language and manner so as to ensure we hurt and offend no one.

May allah give us the taufeeq to clarify and contextualise that which we attribute to the Prophet of Allah, Ameen and as Sid would say ALLAH ALMIGHTY KNOWS BEST!!

By: Abu Maryum

Abu Maryum — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 12:51:51 +0000

“Mun samata naja”

“Who stayed silent saved himself”

By: elyas

elyas — Fri, 07 Nov 2008 23:41:00 +0000

Its not a phrase that I care much for! – the effect of sticks and stones heal but the pain caused by loose words lingers and is often felt for ever – forgiven maybe but never forgotten – so “come on you all” lets be kind with our words to others and for others hey!!!!!!

By: Sid

Sid — Fri, 07 Nov 2008 08:55:29 +0000

Subhanallah, what amazing hadiths you have quoted brother Elyas! Especially the first one higlighting the importance that Islam places on the quality of humility.

I think the old phrase, ’sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me’ has lost its meaning in today’s world, don’t you?

By: Elyas

Elyas — Fri, 07 Nov 2008 07:14:49 +0000

Salam AND DUAS, I completely agree but hey you know me I dont do “rubber stamping” that well, LOL! Speaking with respect, humility, etiquette and courtesy doesnt just apply to the media of course. As Bro Siddique’s piece acknowledges what we say and how we say it is an important part of our everyday human interactions

The Prophetic traditions that speak as to “the one who is humble for the sake of allah, Allah will raise him/her” “the best muslim is one from whose tongue and hand other muslims stay safe” allude to the importance and necessity of mederating what we say so as not to cause offence to anyone.

As someone who deals in words! – I know what words can do, how easy it is to utter them without thought and what damage they have the capacity of doing to others when used inapproriately.

So my message to everyone and above all to myself is “LET US THINK BEFORE WE SPEAK, LET US SPEAK ONLY THE TRUTH AND LET US DO SO WITH DIGNITY, HUMILITY & RESPECT” Always and AMEEN.

Allahafez Elyas.