Some Relationship Advice

Assalaamu-Alaykum – Peace be Upon you

Throughout the course of our lives, we all have lots of relationships.  Relationships with different people, different sorts of relationships, we even build up relationships with inanimate objects like our nice car, our holiday home or something as mundane as our Blackberry phone (I am the first guilty party here!!).

Although I have blogged about this subject before, it is something I feel I have to keep on re-visiting, not just so that I can explain it to others (or try to anyway!), but also for personal reasons.  Personal reasons because this relationship I have, my relationship with my Creator, is one which needs me to pay constant attention (like any other relationship), otherwise it will weaken.

So what does a Muslim believe about his/her relationship with Allah?

Well there are so many aspects to this that I will never be able to do it justice in one post, however, if I were to concentrate on one of those aspects, the one which for me is the most fundamental one, but also one which a lot of people do not give much attention to (and, therefore, do not benefit from its understanding), is the amazing fact that, as corny and cheesy as it sounds, Allah, God, our Creator loves His creation.  And if we remember that we as Muslims believe that we are the Ashraful Makhlooqaat (the best of all creation) then it follows that Allah loves us the most.

Now remember that all humans, irrespective of colour, race or creed fall into this – the whole of mankind – and therefore it means that Muslims believe that God loves all human beings.

So how does Allah show this love?

He shows this by showering us with His bounties – yes, HIS bounties.  We did not create the Sun and the Moon, nor the air and water, nor the rivers, the seas, the mountains, the trees,  and the animals (to name but a few), yet every single living human being derives benefit from at least four of these things everyday.

When a person is in love with another, to show the loved one how much they mean, he or she will express themselves in a multitude of ways and manners.  This will be through words, through gifts, by listening to them or in any other way which they think will please their loved one the most.

Similarly, Allah shows humanity day in day out how much He loves us, by showering us with gifts, by listening to our prayers and by giving us His beautiful Word, the Qur’an to recite.

What would we do if it did not rain?  How would we feel if we did not have the use of, say, one of our legs?  All these things, and many many more, are gifts, bounties, blessings, from He who loves us the most – our Creator.

So the question in my minds begs to be asked – how much does Allah love us that we get this EVERYDAY of our life?  A question I think which no mortal will ever be able to answer……

And naturally, we have to ask ourselves, how much do I love God, what have I done to receive these Nemahs (blessings) and what have I done to show my appreciation?  Truly we will never be able to count the blessings of Allah and truly we will never be able to thank Him properly.

But here’s where it gets interesting – whereas in a normal relationship, if there was not more or at least an equal amount of reciprocation from the other party the relationship would struggle, in man’s relationship with his Lord, even if we show the tiniest amount of appreciation, then Allah, who Muslims believe, is free from all faults, is perfect in every way and does not need anybody, that same Allah increases our provisions and draws even closer to us, thus strengthening the relationship between man the slave, and Allah his Master, enabling man to get a closer relationship and recognition of the Being who created him and what He wants from him in this temporal world – definitely something to ponder over.

Anyway, like I said, a sinful, uneducated person like me will never be able to do this topic justice, but I leave you with a verse from the Qur’an which will refresh you with its clarity, precision and succinctness.  Allah says in His Book:

اللّهُ الَّذِي خَلَقَ السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالأَرْضَ وَأَنزَلَ مِنَ السَّمَاء مَاء فَأَخْرَجَ بِهِ مِنَ الثَّمَرَاتِ رِزْقًا لَّكُمْ وَسَخَّرَ لَكُمُ الْفُلْكَ لِتَجْرِيَ فِي الْبَحْرِ بِأَمْرِهِ وَسَخَّرَ لَكُمُ الأَنْهَارَ

وَسَخَّر لَكُمُ الشَّمْسَ وَالْقَمَرَ دَآئِبَينَ وَسَخَّرَ لَكُمُ اللَّيْلَ وَالنَّهَارَ

وَآتَاكُم مِّن كُلِّ مَا سَأَلْتُمُوهُ وَإِن تَعُدُّواْ نِعْمَتَ اللّهِ لاَ تُحْصُوهَا إِنَّ الإِنسَانَ لَظَلُومٌ كَفَّارٌ

32. Allâh is He Who has created the heavens and the earth and sends down water (rain) from the sky, and thereby brought forth fruits as provision for you; and He has made the ships to be of service to you, that they may sail through the sea by His Command; and He has made rivers (also) to be of service to you.

33. And He has made the sun and the moon, both constantly pursuing their courses, to be of service to you; and He has made the night and the day, to be of service to you.

34. And He gave you of all that you asked for, and if you count the Blessings of Allâh, never will you be able to count them. Verily! Man is indeed an extreme wrong-doer, – a disbeliever.

Qur’an – Surah Ibrahim

And it is also a dictum stated in the Qur’an that whatever provision we thank God for, He will acknowledge it by increasing that provision, no matter what it may be.

I suppose this is not your usual sort of relationship advice, but nevertheless something which I think we should all ponder over more.  Indeed Allah loves us, all of us – it is He who gave us existence, He who provides us with sustenance  and He whom we will ultimately return to.  It is, therefore, extremely important that we not only recognise Him, but also on a daily basis take steps to ‘get to know’ Him, strengthen our bond with Him and thereafter revel in the peace he enshrouds our hearts in.

And surely Allah knows best.

Ma’as-salaam – With Peace

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